More About Danielle

My career has given me a rare vantage point on human complexity, resilience, and the interplay between wounded and divine masculine and feminine energies. My professional path has spanned teaching, non-profit program design, ritual studies, and intimacy coaching, as well as years of experience inside the sex industry—an experience that gave me unfiltered insight into human vulnerability, desire, and survival.

Far from conventional, this trajectory equipped me to meet people at their rawest edges and guide them toward wholeness and empowerment with both rigor and compassion.

Teaching & Non-profit Work

After graduate school, I taught community college in East Oakland, working with one of the most diverse and system-impacted student populations in the country. My classrooms included gang-involved teens, formerly incarcerated youth, single teen mothers, international students from across the globe, and students with significant learning gaps.

In these classrooms, I witnessed firsthand the intersections of poverty, racism, intergenerational trauma, incarceration, broken family systems, and masculine wounding. I saw how early relational trauma shapes adult identity, intimacy, and self-worth. Teaching in this environment sharpened my ability to meet people where they are in moments of transition and identity formation, and it deepened my insight into how social forces, systemic gaps, and inherited trauma shape the capacity for intimacy and relational health.

After community college teaching, I moved into program design and grant writing for a non-print medical clinic in East Oakland. My work focused on newly insured African-American men, exploring their needs as newly-insured patients in the medical setting and the sociocultural barriers that prevent meaningful care.

These experiences gave me a close view of the wounded masculine in many forms: young men shaped by violence, racism, poverty, and fatherlessness, as well as older men navigating shame, disconnection, and loss of purpose. I came to see how the collapse of healthy masculinity reverberates through families, women, and children.

Legacy and Lineage

Alongside my professional work in the education and health sectors, I raised two sons as a single mother in the liberal culture of the San Francisco East Bay. Over time, I came to see how certain liberal parenting values—especially the rise of “participation trophy” culture—can inadvertently pathologize healthy masculine traits, weaken a young man’s core, and prolong his maturation.

Born into and intersecting with family lines marked by addiction, abuse, betrayal, and wounded masculine and feminine dynamics, my personal history has also given me an unflinching understanding of how patterns repeat—and how they can be healed. I have faced the painful truth of how my own trauma behaviors and wounded femininity, coupled with years of survival-driven hustling, impacted my children. Yet I also know that recognizing these patterns is what allows them to be broken, and that legacy trauma becomes the very ground from which authentic healing emerges.

Legacy trauma is now a core feature of the healing work I do. Understanding one’s lineage in terms of flipped polarity and ancestral trauma is fundamental to detaching from personal shame and beginning to see patterns not as inherent flaws, but as learned behaviors that can be unlearned..

Ritual, Ceremony & Initiation Training

My training as a Certified Life-Cycle Celebrant gave me a deep understanding of ceremony and ritual—not as decoration, but as essential rites of passage that mark profound identity shifts. Joseph Campbell’s work on the hero’s journey affirmed what I had already lived: that every transformation requires a threshold crossing, a departure from the familiar, and an encounter with the unknown.

True initiation is shadow work—a descent into the unseen and unclaimed parts of ourselves. When held in a sacred container, it transforms fear into sovereignty and disconnection into belonging. This understanding now shapes everything I create: from sessions with individuals and couples, to the warrior training program I am developing for young men, to reclamation work with women seeking connection to their femininity.

For Campbell, the culmination of the hero’s journey is not personal triumph, but service to the community: returning with knowledge, integrating the lessons of trial, and offering them in devotion. For the divine masculine, this is not symbolic but essential—it is the milestone of his fullest expression. My coaching framework draws on this truth, guiding men and women to reclaim their own authority, integrate their lessons, and live in service to love, truth, and sovereignty—not for personal gain, but to nourish family, community, earth, and future generations.

Arnold Van Gennep’s three stages of rite of passage—separation, transition, and reintegration—also deeply inform my work. These phases map closely to the experiences of my clients, whether they are exiting the sex industry, reentering dating after divorce, navigating sexual healing, or stepping into a more spiritually aligned life. I use this model to help them locate where they are in their transformation process and honor each phase with intentional rituals and goals that mark the reality of change.

Attachment & Clinical Lenses

When I began offering coaching as an adjunct to my sensual massage practice, I earned Thais Gibson’s Integrated Attachment Theory (IAT) Certification and developed a specialty in how attachment style shapes intimacy and sexuality—both with one’s own body and with a partner. I also observed how insecure attachment often underlies the choice to see sex workers, reliance on porn, and difficulty sustaining healthy, connected relationships.

Drawing from domestic violence and sexual-trauma frameworks, I pay close attention to power dynamics, coercive control, and the lingering effects of sexual assault and childhood sexual abuse on desire, boundaries, and trust. I also work with the identity wounds carried by fatherless and motherless daughters.

What distinguishes my approach is the way I bring attachment theory into conversation with initiation, legacy, and identity restoration. Alongside this, my behind-the-scenes education revealed the stark difference between dopamine-driven sex and intimacy-driven connection—an insight that continues to shape my coaching today.

In practice, this means first mapping attachment patterns—both somatically and relationally—so clients can see how their body and behaviors respond in connection. From there, we build secure-function skills such as attunement, pacing, and repair. Over time, this work replaces avoidance or performance cycles with practices that restore safety, sovereignty, and genuine connection.

Bringing It Together

The communities I have served, and the experiences that shaped me, are inseparable from the work I do today. Whether I am supporting someone in rebuilding trust after betrayal, helping a couple restore polarity, or guiding a man through years of emotional disconnection, I bring the full depth of my experience, professional training, and spiritual insight to the table.

This is not theoretical work. It is the work of a life lived in the trenches, in the classroom, in the ceremony circle, and in the most intimate human exchanges—all in service of rehumanizing sex and restoring the wholeness we were born to claim.