“The highest form of intimacy is truth.” – Lorin Krenn

Being ourselves in intimate relationships is essential—not only for authentic connection, but for maintaining self-esteem and self-respect. When we’re uncomfortable expressing our feelings, asking for what we need, or saying “no” to what we don’t like, we show up wearing a mask. And in doing so, we deprive ourselves of the very things we all need: acceptance, safety, respect, and love.

Take it from someone who faked it for years—there’s nothing lonelier than abandoning yourself.

Self-abandonment shows up in countless ways: doing things that cause pain or discomfort, having sex to please a partner, overlooking boundary violations out of fear of loss, or telling ourselves we’re “fine” in relationships that feel empty, unsatisfying, unbalanced, or unsafe.

When we abandon ourselves within a partnership, we often feel like the victim of an avoidant, neglectful, absent, or even abusive lover. But even when rooted in survival, faking it means we’re not fully present for them either.

Self-abandonment always ends up being a two-way betrayal.

Waking up from a lifetime of coping—especially in a relationship that looks good from the outside—can bring painful clarity. We may realize we’re not actually loved for who we are, but for who our “surviving self” pretended to be.

For those of us who’ve lived on autopilot, playing whatever role we needed to for our parents, our culture, our friends, and lovers—even our children—being authentic means taking a huge risk.

The truth is, we often either lose people who didn’t really love us or choose to walk away from those we’ve held onto out of fear.

And still, the risk is worth it.

Although we live in a hyper-sexualized culture, most of us carry shame, embarrassment, or fear around our sexuality—often even in safe and loving relationships. Avoiding these uncomfortable feelings becomes a default strategy, but it comes at the cost of our self-esteem, self-trust, and embodied worth.

We go along with routine. We uphold appearances. We trade intimacy for expedience.

But expedience has no place in intimacy.

Chronic self-abandonment—emotional or erotic—can lead to illness, burnout, low self-worth, and the slow erosion of love.

Even happy couples with great chemistry can fall into patterns: taking sex for granted, treating it as a habit rather than a sacred opportunity to reconnect. If you and your partner are ready to deepen intimacy, awaken erotic energy, or just need a space to explore new territory with curiosity and care, a couples workshop with me might be the reset you’re looking for.

What Makes This Work Different?

Erotic mindfulness—prioritizing presence over performance (and even over pleasure)—is the foundation of my couples work.
Rather than fixating on “techniques” or seeking quick-fix chemistry, this practice helps you both slow down enough to actually feel your body, your boundaries, your truth—and your partner. Erotic mindfulness restores a connection to self that allows for genuine connection to the other. It’s what turns surface-level touch into sacred intimacy and revives a sexual relationship that may have dulled over time.

This work is designed to revive connection, build trust, and remind you both what sacred intimacy feels like—not just in theory, but in your body. And yes, that includes great sex—satisfying, lasting, and resilient through decades of change, parenting, aging, and the full arc of partnership.

Considering a Couples Workshop?

I love working with couples and am always honored to be a part of your growth and expansion. Couples work is truly sacred.

If you're called to this experience, you are among a small group of humans who possess the courage and strength to risk being seen for who you are and expose the hidden dynamics in your relationship.

Countless married couples invest in elaborate public relations campaigns, posting happy pics on Instagram and Facebook, paying for costly and carefully curated photoshoots for holiday cards, and show up to church in their Sunday best. Meanwhile, they don’t have regular sex—or sometimes any sex at all—are cheating on their partners, and maintaining a façade of a happy, successful family.

If you’re here, you’re not choosing to fabricate a façade for social media or family or even that part of yourself who can’t bear the thought of being judged—at least not anymore.

You are brave. You have integrity. You love yourself. And you’re no quitter.

Please, give yourself credit for that, no matter what’s going on at home or inside you—no matter how frustrating or painful your circumstances are.

You are the couples capable of actually saving your marriage and, more importantly, your dignity, self-respect, and self-love. And in this way, you’re already ahead of the curve.

So if you’ve got second thoughts, butterflies in your belly, and an ache in your heart, just know: you got this.

And I got you.

I take no sides. I serve as your mirror and advocate. I bring both professional insight and spiritual vision to see you clearly, without judgment—and I will fight for your success.

Why?

Because our world is suffering the devastating consequences of an intimacy crisis worse than any pandemic, economic crisis, or political debacle. Without love, connection, and a healthy sex life (the often forgotten yet vital element to a happy marriage), we simply repeat historical patterns, perpetuate ancestral trauma, and remain stuck, compromising the very things we’re here to know: love, acceptance, and security.

I’ve never had a bad experience working in this sacred dynamic, and the connections I make with my couples are uniquely rewarding.

But this is not easy work.

To be clear, these sessions almost always bring up underlying issues and sometimes reveal pain that has festered for years. Even my detailed intake process might trigger suppressed emotions and memories. Talking openly with a third party with your partner present may be a huge step into the murky water of vulnerability that might provoke anxiety and reveal resentment, unhealed wounds, and grief.

You might remember past traumas or disagreements, cry, and simultaneously realize you’re being seen, loved, and validated for your authentic self. And in that moment—when you're finally seen and loved for your truest self—that is pure gold.

What’s really cool about doing this work? The very pain, shame, or blockages that inhibit your sex life can actually become the gateway to deeper connection—and pleasure that was never possible before.

Your three-hour couples workshop includes:

• A 45-minute video chat interview and intake questionnaire prior to booking

• Addressing attachment styles (if relevant) and clarifying individual needs

• Instruction in Erotic Mindfulness — the foundational practice of prioritizing presence over performance. You’ll learn how to stay connected to your body and your partner in each moment, express desires, needs, and boundaries without shame, and explore erotic connection as a path to healing and trust-building

• Sensual massage, Nuru, and sensory play demonstration and practice

• Homework, educational resources, and referrals (if needed)

Please note: This workshop is conducted exclusively in your personal space—either your home or a hotel room of your choosing. I do not offer an external studio space. Travel rates apply for locations outside my local area.

Both partners must participate jointly in a 15-min phone interview prior to booking.

Cost: $1200
Deposit due prior to intake call: $450