Frequently Asked Questions

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Sexual healing is an overlooked, distorted, and often misunderstood aspect of our human experience. Readiness for this work often takes decades, and many live entire lives without sexual pleasure and genuine intimacy, even in relationships that span decades. We're rarely—if ever—encouraged to investigate our sexual selves with the intention of finding the root cause behind the patterns that keep us stuck in insecurity, addiction, or disconnection.

In fact, most social norms encourage secrecy and avoidance, and there’s no common language for discussing our intimate lives in safe and productive ways. Yet real, unguarded intimacy demands tenacity and open-heartedness—the willingness to love our most vulnerable parts, embrace our desires, needs, kinks—including our sexual darkness—and risk the potentially devastating consequences of exposing ourselves to another.

True transformation—especially the kind that leads to secure, loving relationships and transcendent intimacy—requires emotional maturity, the courage to retire old survival personas, and a willingness to be dismantled by truth before being rebuilt in love.

There’s no quick fix here. No gimmicks. No spiritual bypass.

If there’s one thing sex work taught me, it’s this: investing in fear, addiction, or performance guarantees stagnancy and the slow erosion of self-respect. Trading short-term pleasure for long-term pain is not liberation. It’s self-abandonment.

Sexual healing isn’t for the faint of heart. But it is for those who are ready.

To best gauge where you are, all new clients are required to read the FAQs and Booking Policies and Procedures blog.

Consider these self-assessment tools designed to help you identify where you are and provide a rubric for determining readiness to engage in coaching with me.

  • Yes. I work with individuals and couples of all genders, orientations, and backgrounds—including trauma survivors, spiritual seekers, people of faith, and those navigating intimacy after loss, illness, divorce, or personal transformation.

    The one requirement? A sincere commitment to personal responsibility. This work is not for spiritual tourists or those seeking quick fixes. My clients are emotionally intelligent, self-aware, and radically honest—even when it’s uncomfortable.

    I especially love working with young adults seeking to break free from hookup culture and build healthy, secure relationships in a world that rarely teaches how.

    You can read more about my philosophy and approach here. And if you’re uncertain after reading the FAQ, check out this blog: “10 Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Hire a Sex & Intimacy Coach.”

  • No. I do not offer massage or erotic bodywork of any kind outside couples massage classes, which are purely educational. This includes tantra, sensual massage, or anything resembling sex work.

    I am not for hire as a “hands-on” practitioner.

    If you are here hoping to reinitiate a dynamic from the past of any kind, please understand: that chapter is closed. Unless you are ready to engage with my current work as a coaching client, please do not contact me.

  • Drawing on professional training in Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory and the framework for rites of passage and the hero’s journey, I help clients navigate threshold moments with intention and meaning—identifying and rewriting the core beliefs, emotional and behavioral coping patterns, needs, and nervous system patterns that block intimacy, sexual satisfaction, and authentic self-expression. My work focuses on empowerment and sovereignty—not fostering dependence of any kind.

    Whether you’re struggling with insecure attachment; addiction to sex, fantasy, or dopamine; shame around your body or sexuality; or simply want to grow in relational depth (with yourself, especially!), I bring unfiltered honesty and real-world application delivered with compassion, sincerity, and respect.

    My work integrates:

    • Attachment theory

    • Nervous system regulation tools

    • Spiritual insight and intuition

    • Somatic awareness

    • Direct, honest guidance rooted in real-world experience

    This is a space of transformation, not performance.

  • Working with couples is my specialty. The only requirement is that both individuals are fully consenting and committed to the process. I do not work with couples where one partner is secretly attempting to “fix” or control the other. This never works and goes against my ethics and philosophy.

    If your partner is hesitant, feel free to submit a contact form explaining your situation. In some cases, individual work may be the best first step.

  • Then you’re in the right place.

    Readiness isn’t about perfection or even clarity—it’s about willingness. I’ve worked with plenty of people who felt scared, unsure, or skeptical at first. I’ve seen clients so traumatized they could barely speak. What matters is whether you're open to learning, unlearning, and taking radical responsibility for your healing.

    Book a 30-min consultation if you want help figuring out next steps.


  • Yes—and I speak this language fluently.

    Many of my clients are men who’ve struggled with porn addiction, compulsive behavior, or chronic reliance on sex workers. These are surface-level manifestations of deeper wounds—ones I am equipped to address, and for which I require clients take full responsibility.

    In some cases, I will require that you are seeing a licensed therapist. Working with me is not a way to avoid accountability but a path to self-governance and personal freedom, which are built on radical honesty and accountability.

  • I work with current and former sex workers seeking support with nervous system regulation, boundary repair, burnout recovery, poverty mindset, and transition planning. I’m here to help you find healthy coping strategies and to provide a safe, judgment-free place for you to share your experience and maintain your sense of dignity and self-respect.

  • I am not a licensed therapist. I’m certified as a coach in Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory, a professional educator with a Master’s Degree, Certified Life-Cycle Celebrant, and experienced teacher and mentor who relies on professional training, decades of professional experience, evidence-based practices, and science-backed tools for nervous system regulation and reprogramming the subconscious mind.

    If you require clinical diagnosis or treatment for PTSD, addiction, or severe mental illness, please seek a licensed provider before contacting me. However, many of my clients work with me and a therapist or medical professional simultaneously.

  • All individual coaching is offered virtually via video or phone.

    For clients in San Diego and Orange County, I also offer in-person private sessions and workshops conducted in your home or mine. These are intimate, hands-on experiences designed for those ready to go deeper in a contained, private setting.

    For those seeking an immersive experience, I offer exclusive private workshops available both locally and as a travel option for clients outside the area. See my Work With Me page for details and pricing.

  • I offer special rates for young adults under 25 and periodically offer seasonal promotions and sliding scale options. Please inquire for special consideration if finances are an issue. If you’re a student or parent, don’t hesitate to reach out—supporting your growth matters to me.